Researchers now agree that the optimum time for the stimulation of basic learning abilities in a child is before the age of six.
a child listening to a story will remember exactly how she felt long after she forgets the lesson.
In your teaching, this means treating her with respect, kindness, and concern. It means making her feel good about herself, and ensuring that you never criticize or humiliate her.
emotional development can make a tremendous difference in the child’s learning readiness and process, and this is where parents can help the most. We can prime our child’s learning pump by continually filling his emotional tank.
As you consistently speak the five languages of love—physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, and acts of service—you are giving your child much intellectual stimulation.
Parents who do not take time to speak the five love languages, but simply seek to meet a child’s physical needs, are neglecting her intellectual and social development. A child who is starved for love and acceptance from his parents will have little motivation to accept the challenges of learning in the early years or later in school.
Perhaps nowhere else is the connection between love and learning more clearly demonstrated than when a child’s parents separate or divorce. This traumatic break ruptures the child’s emotional tank and drains his interest in learning.
A child whose parents have divorced will usually show lessened academic interest for several months until some measure of security and assurance of love can be restored to his world.
A child who is doing well emotionally will have the concentration, motivation, and energy she needs to use her abilities to the maximum. In contrast, if she is distressed with anxiety or melancholy, or feels unloved, she probably will have problems with concentration and attention span and feel a decrease in energy. It will be more difficult for her to keep her mind on the task at hand. Studying may seem uninteresting.
Because the move to fourth grade is one of the most critical periods of academic transition, it is worth special notice by parents.
The key to motivating a child is to get her to take responsibility for her own behavior.
If you see an interest in your child in studying music, you can encourage that. But the key is to let the child take the initiative.
When parents take the initiative to convince a child to take music lessons, the results are rarely positive.
If you take the initiative and try to convince her to do something, you are assuming responsibility. A child is seldom motivated when this happens.
the more importance parents place on schoolwork, the more the child will tend to resist it. And remember this: The more responsibility the parent takes regarding the homework, the less the child will take. And, the less responsibility the child takes in doing his homework, the less motivated he will be.
Helping a child to be well motivated by permitting her to take both initiative and responsibility for her own behavior seems to be a well-concealed secret today.
Your children will reach their highest motivation and success in learning at school when they are secure in your love.